Every time I read an article on solo traveller women and I find in it the word “single” this is my reaction.
I really like to read articles about solo travels and to share the best ones on our Facebook page. But I come up against articles that define solo traveller women brave, emancipated and…single, over and over again.
Headings like: “Travels for single and lone women” or “Women travelling alone: single and brave…” are often followed by approximate articles that merely explain the reasons that drive to the decision to leave for a solo travel. The risk is to put across the message that all solo traveller women are single, that they do not intend to start a relationship or that they are not able to have one.
It is all wrong and many women part of our group, engaged, married or with children, demonstrate it. The truth is that not all solo traveller women are single and those who have a partner are living a healthy relationship, made of mutual respect and support.
To make this truth even more strong I asked some girls of our group to tell, with their words, their experiences related to solo travelling and their love story.
Here you are their stories
Monica: “Since I travel alone I have the feeling “not to belong” to any place, to any person or though not to be rooted in a place, this could be both a good and a bad thing. The boys who accepted my “gipsy” side are the same that lasted more than 4 seasons. It is necessary to be open-minded and not possessive to accept it, aware from the fact that during a journey everything may happen and that at its end we will maybe say goodbye to each other. It is a risk that it is worth to run, at least for me”.
Maria Grazia: “After several years of engagement and life in common, in June I got married. I have more spare time compared with my husband and I am using it to travel, even alone for medium-long terms and he comes with me when possible. We miss each other, but I do not want to give up and he is happy for me because I am making true my dream of a lifetime: a small tour of the world in stages. In my opinion, travelling in couple is the best thing ever, but I admit that travelling alone gave me a lot. I know that it may seem unconceivable through the eyes of most people , but I think that there is nothing wrong in cultivating our interests, the person we love would not want to make us live in regret”.
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Federica: “I am engaged and I have been living together with my partner for several years, once a year I always have a solo travel and he has nothing against it. I have more holidays compared to him and I already had solo travels before meeting him. Now I keep on doing it because I know that I would terribly miss it”.
Cristina: “It is 18 years since I met my husband, I have a happy life with and without him. We travel a lot together, for work and for passion, but we also travel alone. We are together everywhere, even when he is in Tucson and I am in Catania. My mentor was undoubtedly the beautiful grandma Margherita who in the 30’ of the last century had solo travels in a world deeply different from the one we know today”.
Angela: “I have been travelling alone for so many years by now . I met my partner a few years after my first solo travel and since that moment we started to travel also together, alternating solo travels with family travels. Even if our relationship suffered ups and downs, bucking myself with long and sometimes difficult travels helped us, once I came back home, remain together. In fact, when six months ago I injured myself during a travel, my wish was to come back home. Maybe my travels are what kept and still keep my family together”.
Barbara: “I take the opportunity to seek the silver lining in a relationship that really hurt me. He was proud of me when I had solo travels. The “savage” inside of him loved the “savage” inside of me. He understood the pleasure of falling asleep in an olive grove, screaming in front of the sea, he had my same “Africa” inside, he had slept in stations and he had jumped on trains without ticket. He was a gipsy (too) who loved to travel (even) alone and was perfectly understanding my smile when I wore my backpack. We dreamed about leaving for two different places and meeting in a third one to go on together. You need courage to be free. He did not have it, I discovered to have more than expected instead”.
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Alessandra A.: “In this moment I am living an unstable relationship because of my will of leaving. We have been together for 6 years , but unfortunately he does not completely accept my solo travel will. I am holding on because I do not want to abandon my dreams neither want to compromise my life. You can have a relationship with this kind of passion, but it is necessary to have next to you a person who can give you the enthusiasm you need. I think that if you leave you need a heart bigger than other people’s to let it contain people you love, anyway choosing yourself. The secret is not to give up, not to surrender and not to live the life other people want for you. If you have to choose, so choose yourself”.
Martina: “I met my husband when I was 30, I travelled alone, I had lot of friends and I felt free, strong and independent. Then he appeared. After a month I brought him with me in Syria, 20 days, backpack on, in a clapped-out bus, eating street food and when we came back home I felt I would have got married with him. We have been together for 7 years. I keep travelling alone, because it is a habit, because I love to carve out time for myself and because often he can’t come with me because of work. I am a solo traveller because it is the passion of my life. But when I travel with him I have more fun and I feel more complete. When I travel alone I often think about how happy I would be if we could share the best moments or fall asleep together. You don’t have to be single to travel alone, but I think that travelling by two is even more pleasant”.
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Eleonora: “Curiously, I have been wishing to leave alone for years, then I decided to leave only after meeting my partner. After we started living together. I think that it is partly thanks to him, because he became “the home where coming back to”. According to the relationship I know I need, I can’t imagine a partner who has to give to me the permission to leave, who may not agree. He knows that I don’t travel to meet other boys. Travelling is my life, my oxygen, he is my ideal travel companion, when he can come with me. Otherwise, he knows that I follow my passions around the world and then I’m glad to come back to him”.
Alice: “Since I was 21 I move alone, I change houses, works, cities. And I was always engaged when I did that. I started to be a solo traveller for distraction, after that a long engagement turned into a marriage and then came to an end. I needed to breathe new air. But when I started my relationship with my Warrior, I immediately understood that with him I would never have problems to keep on solo travelling. He was able to understand my will and encouraged me, instead of making me feel guilty as other boys had done. I kept on solo travelling facing other more resistances around me, but never his ones. I love to travel with him, we are fully in line but I like his way of considering normal my solo traveller willing and the way I face my journeys, curious and enthusiastic. When he can’t come with me he says “you are my eyes, make a lot of photos, then you have to tell me all about it”.
Alessandra: “I will have my first solo travel in December in Ireland. It is a new experience that I want to do only with myself. I am 20 and when I talk about this journey the first thing people ask to me is “Why Andrea do not come with you?” and I reply in kind. When they ask the same to him, he answers that he knows how much this journey means to me and that he knows very well that I have to go alone and that only in this way I will be able to live this experience the best I can. He knows I am strong and that I can manage every kind of situation, even without him. He is not a traveller, but he has always supported me in every decision, though crazy. I am proud to have next to me a person who, even if he does not have my same passion, respects it and supports me”.
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Erika: “I started to travel alone two years ago, to find again – and to think about – myself after an important relationship. After two years I had the good fortune to fall in love again with a person who is enthusiastic of my desire to discover new places and to live the journey. He has never turned his nose up while I was getting lost searching new places and flights, on the contrary he knows that the person in front of him is the result of these experiences and that sometimes needs to be spiritually reborn. I am happy to send him the photos of my journeys and I know that, when arriving at the airport, he will be there, waiting for me and the stories I carry with me!”